Friday, May 20, 2011

Online Dating

I've made a decision. I've tried almost every online dating site out there. eHarmony, Match, OK Cupid... and I have hated every moment of the experience. Never once did I have a moderately ok guy contact me. It was always weirdos or guys who are obviously players. Plus I have this rule. If you have taken a picture of yourself in the mirror to post I will immediately rule you out. Don't you have friends to take a picture of you?? Warning sign if you ask me. Also, the mortifying feeling when you get matched up with someone you know. Not only know but think is really cute and wouldn't mind if they asked you out but found them averting their eyes in embarrassment the next time you see them...

All this to say that I have decided to never join one again. No matter how tempted I get. No matter how bad that moment of weakness is I will not join. Unless I turn 35 and I'm still single I might reconsider eHarmony... I have 8 years until that happens...

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Thursday, May 19, 2011

Well.... I'm back

Almost a year and a half later and I'm back. Not sure what drove me away for so long or why I've decided to come back to this blog but I'm here now.

I'm still single, I'm still working the same job but I was blessed to find a new group of friends here in L.A. All these friends were single and they loved to do fun things like Vegas trips, movies in the park and wine tastings. Every weekend was something new and fun and I realized how it felt to feel normal and not the odd one out in a group full of couples. Now though things are changing. I must be a good luck charm because the amount of couples in our group far outweighs the singles. Gone are the Friday night hang outs with the whole group. Gone are the weekend trips. Couple activities have taken over and its an all too familiar feeling.

I felt myself slipping into the mindset I had when this happened with all my college friends. Bitterness and resentment. I can't let that happen again though. I am determined to stay positive and focus on all the amazing things I can do because I am single. I can move to a new town. I can buy expensive shoes without my husband scolding me. I can take up the whole bed at night. I have a entire closet to myself. I can not shave for weeks. I can take trips and plan things without having to check with my partner.

One day someone will come along and I'll be ecstatic. But for now I'm going to go buy myself some Cole Haan heels and a new queen mattress to have all to myself.